Selasa, 08 Januari 2013

Being the only man!

A young married couple, I mean under 10 years marriage, has often problems to care children while they should go working. In the world of man dominancy, child caring is due to woman's responsibility. Although I am good enough in understanding Gender, I cannot avoid my social culture burden to have responsibility in domestic work. However, I am lucky that my husband has also learned little by little about job distribution not based on sex but based on the competency.
As social worker, sometimes I have to go to other towns, islands even abroad to visit other organizations, to have workshop or to do some programs. So, it is not surprising that my husband comes to our kid kindergarten more often than I do. It's no problem for us, but not for community. It's still strange! They always ask where I am, as kid's mother.
It happens again. I am very very busy that no time left to accompany my kid for school farewell party held in one of fancy parks in my town. I feel that my husband is reluctant to go since he has to spend a whole day with other kids' parents that he predics will be almost mothers! Nothing can be done, I have to lead a meeting! No other one can accompany the kid, except my husband. Thanks God, that he is finally willing to accompany. All kids depart to the location from the school together by bus and will be picked up home with the same bus.
During my meeting, I get a message in my mobile phone. It turns out from my husband. It says, "Hello Mam, we are in the way to the park. You know that all kids are with their mothers. I am the only man in the bus! Actually, it is your job to accompany."
I can imagine that he begins to grumble in such condition and I have no idea to reply. For several minutes later I write, "You are lucky among many beautiful women but don't forget that the bus driver is also a man!"
Well, anyway I am proud of him to spend a whole day with kids and women. As my appreciation I pick them up in the park. How beautiful when a man and woman can help each other and distribute job not because of sex but competency instead.

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